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Dear Daughter, Let Miley Cyrus Be a Lesson To You

August 28, AD2013 28 Comments


Dear Daughter,

Let Miley Cyrus be a lesson to you.

Yes, this is what happens when you constantly hear that everything you do is awesome. This is what happens when people fawn over your every Tweet and Instagram photo. This is what happens when no responsible adult has ever taught you that you are created in the “image and likeness of God” with the purpose “to know, love and serve God in this world, so that you can be with Him in the next.” This is what happens when you live in a world where many confused and immature parents are more focused on plastic surgery, shopping and “being hip” than on teaching their children the beauty of our Catholic faith and its teachings, as well as the virtues of humility, love, faith and modesty.

If you ever consider doing something like that, I promise you that I will run immediately to the Eucharistic Adoration chapel and begin a novena to St. Monica. I will make the rosary a continuous prayer in my heart and on my lips. I will solicit every priestly order I know to have masses offered up for your conversion, and I will contact every order of sisters to do the same.

I will pray rosary upon rosary and chaplet upon chaplet beseeching God that, one day, I will look up and, like the Father in the Prodigal Son story, I will see you “far off” and will go running to you with open arms of love and mercy and not judgment and condemnation. I will also pray for all of the people you interact with on your prodigal journey, praying that at some point, when you are on your way to hitting the bottom, someone will shine the light of Christ to you and aid you in ascending from your self-chosen pit of following your own will, instead of God\’s will for your life.

You see, when you follow the world, you find darkness, unhappiness and, ultimately death. When you follow the will of God in your life, you find love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control.

Why would I do this? Because, first and foremost, I love God. Secondly, I love you because God gave you to me as an invaluable gift. With that gift, God gave me and your father the gigantic task of raising you in the truths of our Catholic faith, praying for your soul and striving to help you to grow in virtue. Your straying does not change the task God has given me. Though you may wander far from me, I will always pray and intercede for your soul. That is the job Christ has given to me, and I take that very seriously, as your soul is the most precious gift God has ever given to me. During your times of “waywardness” and wandering from the faith, the task God has given me in being your parent, in an ironic way, becomes ever so much more apparent, and drives me to my knees in a way that I should have been doing all those years “the world” saw you as a “good girl”.

Miley Cyrus is not edgy or cool or sexy. She has been sold a bill of goods by our current hedonistic culture that a young girl is defined by her exterior looks and sexuality, never has been told the truth that her inner beauty comes from the indwelling of the Holy Trinity. The light of Christ lies within her, no matter how much she may try to mask it with the darkness of tattoos, piercings, and scanty clothing.

Miley is sad, she is lonely, she is craving love and acceptance and approval. In the words of “The Donut Man” Miley is trying to fill her “Jesus shaped hole in her heart” with everything but Jesus. I pray that one day she will learn, as did dear St. Augustine (whose feast day we celebrate today), “Our hearts are restless Lord, until they rest in You.” I pray for the conversion of Miley Cyrus, as should you. If all of her self-proclaimed “Smilers” were praying for Miley\’s conversion, instead of reveling in her “bad girl days,” we might be seeing a different Miley Cyrus.

You probably know girls who will emulate Miley\’s behavior at the next school dance. Pray for those girls. They are far too valuable to sell themselves so cheaply because, as you, they also contain the inherent dignity of being made in the image and likeness of God. Instead of judging these girls, go to church. Offer up your masses for them. Pray a Divine Mercy Chaplet for them, as well as for all of the boys around them, who are seeing those girls as objects, and not as the princesses of the Kingdom God has created them to be. We truly do live in the “culture of death” and all of the symptoms we are seeing in our children, such as Miley, merely reflect this reality.

I\’m sorry if you ever felt sad because I have turned everything into talks about virtue and the path of holiness and striving for sanctity in our daily lives. But this is, truly, what God has called me, as your mother, to instill in you during your childhood. You see, it is true, everyone is called to be a saint. Not just Mother Teresa, or St. Francis. Everyone is called to be a saint. We all have our different paths to sanctity, and no route we take on that path is ever too far from God that we cannot turn back and choose the path of God\’s will and personal holiness.

With the feast days of St. Monica and St. Augustine yesterday and today, I encourage you to learn about these two saints, who present quite a North Star for Tish Cyrus, Billy Ray Cyrus, and Miley Cyrus to look to from their darkness. I know I have turned to St. Monica often since becoming a mother. She is such a gift from our dear Catholic Church to mothers struggling with children who are straying from the path; not just giving those mothers hope that they can “change their child”, because, in reality, that is between the child\’s heart and God, but giving mothers hope that they can change themselves, by sacrificing themselves, giving up their own will for the will of God in their life, and never, never giving up on their prayers for their children\’s hearts to burst into the flame of love for God that they know is the true path to happiness, holiness and eternal life.

God bless you my precious child.
All for Jesus, thru Mary,


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About the Author:

Karol Henseler Orsborn M.D., OCDS is a pediatrician of 20 years, as well as a member of the Secular Order of Discalced Carmelites. Her husband, Dave, works for St. Gabriel Catholic Radio and they are the parents of three daughters. In December 2012, she felt called to leave the field of Pediatrics, in order to fight attacks upon the family and the parent/child bond becoming especially prevalent in Pediatrics. Additionally, she has a desire to work towards maintaining and restoring Purity and Innocence in Youth, and exposing them to Virtue, Beauty and Truth in their homes, schools and communities.

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