A professional woman posted what seemed to many readers (according to the huge number of likes, shares, etc.) to be well-reasoned thoughts about why Christians should now officially stop “trying to impose their religious ideas of sin on what is truly a basic civil rights issue” after the Supreme Court issued their same-sex marriage ruling. She went on to say that every time Christians have imposed their definitions onto others, this has led to the greatest violent episodes of history. I posted a response and then left it there, where it received lots of attacks.
“I have to disagree on various levels. The issue of REDEFINING marriage has not been pushed on society by Christians imposing anything! Marriage has always been defined by its conjugal and procreative nature. And that has been true across cultures, religions and throughout history. So, those who are dismayed by the SCOTUS decision are disturbed for the same reasons that four judges dissented. Because the Supreme Court has set itself up to change the very nature and definition of marriage. And that is not the court’s job.
And as for the violence record throughout history there is this: The Black Book of Communism and other reputable sources report that Marxist/communist regimes murdered nearly 110 million people from 1917 to 1987. To put that in perspective we need to remember that all domestic and foreign wars during the 20th century killed around 35 million. When communist atheists control governments they are extremely deadly. In contrast, Christians are the creators of hospitals, universities, and charitable organizations caring for the poor. Christianity is the foundation for civilizations that uphold human dignity.”
To a young woman who loves the Yankees and posted that “we should all just be happy for them [same-sex couples]. Doesn’t the Bible say ‘do unto others what you would have them do unto you,’” I responded in this way:
“Words have meaning. When words, representing institutions, are changed to mean something totally different, there are consequences.
In this case, for all of history, ‘marriage’ has meant a conjugal union which is procreative in nature. That is a very specific form of union. Redefining it will have a long-term impact. It’s kind of like you saying right now, ‘I’m a Yankee pitcher because that’s what I dream about and that’s how I identify myself. So who are you not to honor me as a Yankee pitcher and to deny my civil right to play in the next game?’ If we put you in the game because you want to be there, it would change the outcome of Yankee history. If we put anyone who wanted to join the Yankees on the team, without respect to any criteria beyond their interest, wouldn’t it essentially destroy that team and the game of baseball?”
To a Catholic friend who was using the rainbow filter on her FB page, I wrote to her privately.
I asked her to remove that filter. I told her that she was probably trying to be kind to gay friends but that our church has officially said that the Supreme Court ruling was a grave error. It is not to be celebrated. I explained that redefining marriage will impact our children so they no longer know what marriage really means. It will impact families because kids will be needed to artificially create gay “families” and children will be intentionally deprived of both a father and a mother. This new definition of marriage is all about the adults, not the children. And now our children will think this lifestyle is optional, perhaps an “enjoyable experiment.” The consequences will be far reaching.
After explaining this privately, this woman removed the filter!
We do what we can do! I’m sure there are other ideas for how to respond. There are just my few attempts to stay true to the faith. I’ve been called names and ignored, and I have had to think long and hard about when and how to respond. This is not easy. But the darkness is increasing and the only response we can have is to join together as flickers of light.
–Judith Costello, copyright 2015