What is the difference between a home and a hotel? Or a dormitory? If you were to come home to a clean house (cleaned by a maid) and had food to eat (store-bought), would it really make any difference who did those things? What if it wasn’t your home, but an actual hotel or if you were renting a room?
Apparently your environment affects your sleep and studies show that you will sleep better if your bedroom is clean and comfortable. Even animals sometimes make their homes beautiful. The bowerbird male is famous for using creative materials in making a nest as courtship.
I’ve heard Dr. Oz tell celebrities on his show that they need to start cooking, because our relationship with the food we eat is sacred. You can’t rely on someone else to make it for you all the time. And how much of housework should really be delegated?
The Bible often refers to Heaven as our Father’s home, our final resting place.
“The symbol of the heavens refers us back to the mystery of the covenant we are living when we pray to our Father. He is in heaven, his dwelling place; the Father’s house is our homeland. Sin has exiled us from the land of the covenant, but conversion of heart enables us to return to the Father, to heaven. Jn Christ, then, heaven and earth are reconciled, for the Son alone “descended from heaven” and causes us to ascend there with him, by his Cross, Resurrection, and Ascension.” Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2795
The home is a place of rest, of comfort, of intimacy, of food, of personal “homemadeness”. So Heaven is our final rest after the weary battle of this life, of the Heavenly banquet. It is a place of comfort: “He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there shall be no more death or mourning, wailing or pain” (Rev 21:4) The home, and Heaven, is above all a place for family.
“This perfect life with the Most Holy Trinity – this communion of life and love with the Trinity, with the Virgin Mary, the angels and all the blessed – is called “heaven.” Heaven is the ultimate end and fulfillment of the deepest human longings, the state of supreme, definitive happiness.” Catechism of the Catholic Church, 1024
The most natural place for a family to build communion is in the home. It is no minor detail that the home is called the domestic Church.
We are bodies, we aren’t just trapped in bodies. Our material realities point us toward spiritual realities, but we need those material realities in the raw. The love between man and wife points us to the love of the Trinity. The love of a father toward a son shows us a bit of God’s fatherly love for us. The water in the sacrament of Baptism mirrors God’s grace washing our soul. Our earthly home also points toward the concept of our heavenly home.
Finally, homes have to be made and there has to be someone to make them. If a home is such an important thing, then the person who makes that home should also be important, supported and encouraged. C.S. Lewis said, “The homemaker has the ultimate career. All other careers exist for one purpose only – and that is to support the ultimate career. ”
There are fundamental differences between homes and hotels. A home is personal, a place for persons to live together and form communion. The material tasks of making and caring for a home are important to make the home more comfortable and more personal, so that its spiritual dimension be even clearer.
As a soldier thinks of home while out on the field or a lonely traveler gets homesick, we are ultimately homesick for our Heavenly home. Our homes here on earth show us what we are made for: comfort, rest, intimacy, the Banquet, love, communion and family.