Does God Allow Souls in Purgatory to Visit the Living?


November is the month of All Souls. It is a yearly reminder of our obligation to pray for the souls who, as our doctrine teaches, are in a process of post-death purification.

The souls in Purgatory have repented of their sins but haven’t yet atoned for them.  And that is where we come in. As the saints pray for us, so we should be praying for the souls who have gone before us. This vast communion of saints that stretches from earth to heaven and from heaven back to earth is what we call the Mystical Body of Christ – the Church.

Both Doctrine and Common Sense

Pope Benedict XVI once said in an interview that if there were no doctrine of Purgatory we would have to invent it, and he is right. All human beings are sinners, and we are deeply conscious that sin taints us at the very deepest levels of our souls. Purification of soul requires a spiritual cleanser that only God can provide.  Only in rare cases of extreme holiness and suffering is a person totally purified of sin in this world before death. That is both our doctrine and a common sense understanding of human nature.

There are many biblical bases for our belief that Purgatory exists, and it is not my purpose here to attempt to prove this doctrine.  Belief in Purgatory is firmly established in the Christian Tradition. What we do need is a periodic reminder that someday we ourselves will be in that place of post-death purification.  We will need someone to pray for us! The feast of All Souls is a day in our liturgical year when we recall the need. But the souls in Purgatory always need our prayers.

Sometimes They Ask

Sometimes, as a tangible sign of this, God even allows the souls in Purgatory to ask the living for prayers in a very direct way. Many people receive visits and signs from “beyond” indicating that someone needs prayers. This is not a matter of doctrine as such, but seems to be rooted in the common faith experience of the Church. It is completely consistent with our belief in God’s Mercy.  And experiences like these always require careful discernment. Here is one fascinating story.

Several years ago, my nephew attended a boarding school where one of the teachers died of a heart attack during the summer break. My nephew respected the teacher who had been kind to him in significant ways. One night in his dorm room, while all the other students were asleep, my nephew heard footsteps.  He suddenly sensed the “presence” of someone in the room with him. It was definitely a man, and my nephew was a little frightened because no adults should have been there at that time of night.

With a sense of alarm, he pulled his covers over his head.  The presence came closer to the bed and said something to him that only the deceased teacher would have said. He even recognized the voice as his departed teacher’s voice.

No other student heard the voice or woke up. The presence made no physical contact, said nothing else, and then left. When my nephew uncovered his head, he saw what looked like the back of someone who resembled the deceased teacher walking out of the room. He breathed a sigh of relief and went back to sleep. He was, however, deeply affected by the experience and later asked me what it meant.

God’s Permission

I told him that sometimes souls in Purgatory – those who have no one to pray for them – are permitted by God to let someone on earth know that they need prayers. This is so that they may finish their purification and enter the Kingdom of Heaven with the assistance of some other part of the Church. In that vein, I immediately had a Mass offered for the teacher’s soul.  I also commended the man to the generous love of the Virgin Mary, who cares for all who are undergoing the difficult trial of purification. If this was truly someone in Purgatory who had no one to pray for him, my nephew and I would come to his aid. This, after all, is what we mean by the communion of saints.

My nephew never had another “vision” of his teacher.  Neither of us received any overt sign or confirmation of our prayers, but these were not necessary. Prayer is an act of faith. We knew that the man was now in the hands of Our Lady. With that confidence, it was sure that he was no longer alone in his suffering.

Important Distinctions

I must expand on what I said to my nephew.  God does sometimes permit souls in Purgatory to appear in this world to ask for prayers.  But this is not the normal course of things.

We do have plenty of evidence that these visits happen.  Padre Pio, for instance, used to receive visits from souls in Purgatory on a regular basis.  But we should never expect this to happen to us, and under no circumstances should we want the dead to appear to us.

Souls undergoing purification in another world have work to do.  We should not desire to intervene in that work unless God wills it for some reason known only to Him and the individual soul.

A Caution

Furthermore, we must never deliberately attempt to contact the dead, a trend that seems to be growing more common in an age that has abandoned the sanity of traditional Christian faith. The Catholic Catechism puts this practice in the category of “divination” and states categorically that:

All forms of divination are to be rejected: recourse to Satan or demons, conjuring up the dead or other practices falsely supposed to “unveil” the future. Consulting horoscopes, astrology, palm reading, interpretation of omens and lots, the phenomena of clairvoyance, and recourse to mediums all conceal a desire for power over time, history, and, in the last analysis, other human beings, as well as a wish to conciliate hidden powers. They contradict the honor, respect, and loving fear that we owe to God alone. (CCC, 2116)

While the person who attempts to contact a deceased loved one may believe he or she is doing it innocently, the practice is nothing less than “conjuring” the dead.  This is one of the most spiritually dangerous things we can do because it opens us up to the power of demons.

Let’s also not be too quick to endorse what happened to my nephew as a visit from a soul in Purgatory without examining it more closely. How do we know he wasn’t being visited and deceived by a demon? My nephew was frightened, and I think most people would find a visit from the dead a perplexing thing, to say the least! But demons also reach out to people, so we need to carefully discern such experiences.

Let’s consider five dimensions of my nephew’s experience as points of discernment to understand it better.

1. The presence

My nephew intuitively knew that the presence in his room that night was a man. It’s useless to ask how he knew this because it was a personal intuition that went along with the experience. But a key point of discernment is that demons don’t have gender, while humans retain the characteristics of gender when we die because it is part of our unique individual identity.

The presence was disturbing to my nephew either because it was demonic or because it was “unsettled” in a spiritual sense. A lonely soul in Purgatory with no one to pray for him would qualify as unsettled. In either case, there was no sense of peace in the experience. This means it was not God or a holy angel or a saint that confronted him that night.

2. The setting and recipient

Demons are not bound by space and time.  They can appear anywhere on the earth at will. Humans returning from the dead, however, would only likely return to places they had inhabited while alive. The “wandering souls” of legend are just that, legend. There is no testimony in any Christian tradition, as far as I know, that indicates human souls wander the earth to expiate their sins or ask for prayers.

Souls who are allowed by God to come back from the dead always seem to do so in the places they lived. If their purpose is to ask for prayers, why would they come to someone who does not pray? Hence, the teacher “chose” a student who he knew would likely make a faith-based interpretation of the experience.

3. The voice and lack of deception

Although demons can very easily imitate any human being’s voice as a form of deception, the personal recognition of his teacher’s voice was necessary. The teacher had to make himself known in a personal way so that the recipient would pray for him, specifically.

Another critical point of discernment here is that the voice did not ask my nephew to do anything or prolong its visit beyond their brief encounter. Demons always try to lure human beings into ongoing contact with them in order to further deceive them. Remember Eve and the serpent in the Garden of Eden? Here, there was no solicitation, no extended conversation, and no deception of any kind.

4. The lack of malice

Following on the last point, there was also no sense of malice in the experience, even though it was frightening by its very nature. The presence didn’t threaten anything or fill my nephew with fear that he would be harmed. Demons, who are purely evil, sometimes communicate a distinct sense of menace by their very presence, although that threat may become apparent only after some reflection. The sense of malice is a feeling that usually endures far past the experience. My nephew never felt that, even in the aftermath of the visit.

5. Freedom and faith

As noted, only a believer would interpret an experience of this type in the light of faith and come to a conclusion that the mysterious visitor in the dorm room that night was from Purgatory, not from Hell. The visitor did not make a grand announcement that he was “Mr. So-and-so, your former teacher, suffering in Purgatory, needing prayer.” Perhaps God limits souls from asking for prayers in such an explicit way (although Padre Pio’s visitors seemed to be very forthcoming with information about their state – they were Italians after all).

With faith, we see “indistinctly, as in a mirror” (1 Corinthians 13:12) says St. Paul, and that was what happened here. My nephew’s freedom to discern or ignore, to intercede for or neglect his teacher’s need remained intact.

Prayers for those in Purgatory

It is the same with our faith. November, the month of All Souls, reminds us of our obligation to pray for the dead.;  It is not just a pious act on one day of the year but every day.

I once heard a bishop say that he always prayed for the soul who was “deepest in Purgatory.” What a tremendous act of faith and charity! We believe that all souls need prayer upon death and also that there are a few souls so abandoned that they have no one to pray for them. Some of them may even wake us up to their need through visits from the Beyond.s

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49 thoughts on “Does God Allow Souls in Purgatory to Visit the Living?”

  1. God is immortal–He exists in Eternity, while we currently exist in Time. God experiences the past, present, and future as NOW. So, our prayers for those who have gone before us into Eternity (a/k/a NOW) are applied by God to them whenever and wherever they need(ed) them.

    1. That is correct and true. Which is why I still pray for my great grandparents and mercy at the hour of their death, which happened decades ago. God saw these prayers in eternity, so it’s always efficacious to pray as He knew these prayers would be said far into earthly future.

    2. Daniel 12 New Revised Standard Version Catholic Edition (NRSVCE)

      The Resurrection of the Dead
      12 “At that time Michael, the great prince, the protector of your people, shall arise. There shall be a time of anguish, such as has never occurred since nations first came into existence. But at that time your people shall be delivered, everyone who is found written in the book. 2 Many of those who sleep in the dust of the earth shall awake, some to everlasting life, and some to shame and everlasting contempt. 3 Those who are wise shall shine like the brightness of the sky, and those who lead many to righteousness, like the stars forever and ever. 4 But you, Daniel, keep the words secret and the book sealed until the time of the end. Many shall be running back and forth, and evil shall increase.”

      5 Then I, Daniel, looked, and two others appeared, one standing on this bank of the stream and one on the other. 6 One of them said to the man clothed in linen, who was upstream, “How long shall it be until the end of these wonders?” 7 The man clothed in linen, who was upstream, raised his right hand and his left hand toward heaven. And I heard him swear by the one who lives forever that it would be for a time, two times, and half a time, and that when the shattering of the power of the holy people comes to an end, all these things would be accomplished. 8 I heard but could not understand; so I said, “My lord, what shall be the outcome of these things?” 9 He said, “Go your way, Daniel, for the words are to remain secret and sealed until the time of the end. 10 Many shall be purified, cleansed, and refined, but the wicked shall continue to act wickedly. None of the wicked shall understand, but those who are wise shall understand. 11 From the time that the regular burnt offering is taken away and the abomination that desolates is set up, there shall be one thousand two hundred ninety days. 12 Happy are those who persevere and attain the thousand three hundred thirty-five days. 13 But you, go your way, and rest; you shall rise for your reward at the end of the days.”

      No mention of Purgatory. No mention of the dead being in heaven or hell. But talks about the “end times” and the Resurrection. Daniel is told that he will rest and rise for his reward at the end of the days. No mention of prayers having any bearing on him. No mention of him going to heaven or hell.

      Your conclusions are not firmly based on the Bible, but church doctrines that have developed since Christ left the earth. Christ didn’t pray for the dead so they could somehow be purified by the prayers of others. He had strong words for everyone about what we needed to do. He also says in Matthew 8:22, “ Follow me, and let the dead bury their dead.”

  2. To Joe Zammit:

    You state, “Since her beginning, the Church prayed for the departed souls and She prayed because She convincingly believed that the departed souls needed our prayers to be cleansed of their sins and temporal punishment.”
    Did I miss something in the Book of Acts? Or how about the Gospels?

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