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Overcoming Pornography in Your Life

November 28, AD2017 0 Comments

Pornography has become the most accepted forbidden fruit in the entire world. Looking at naked people for personal pleasure is strictly forbidden by God in His Word (Matthew 5:28). So why has it crossed over into the mainstream as being healthy and good? Because the Bible says in 1 John 5:19 that the whole world is under the influence of the evil one. It’s all part of his wicked deception (2 Thessalonians 2: 9-10) to make sin seem normal, right, and good. Looking at porn is not only the sin of lust, but also, it is the sin of idolatry, as it could be said that one is worshiping an image. This is reminiscent of the golden calf, also an image, where the worship service involved fornication and adultery.

Naked People and the Devil in the Garden

In the Garden of Eden, Satan also made sin seem okay. Eve held the forbidden fruit in her hand, and saw that it was pleasing to the eye (Genesis 3:6), just like pornography is appealing to our eyes. She and Adam were deceived, and we are all still paying the price for that original sin. Anyone who looks at pornography will also pay a huge price, not only in the life to come following death, but also in this life. More than likely, one’s life will soon become a living hell, which may include things like going broke, becoming depressed, becoming fat, or something much worse. This is what is known as the devil’s compensation. St. John Vianney once said,

“I tell you that you have less to suffer in following the cross than in serving the world and its pleasures.”

He was exactly right. Studies have shown that porn consumers are more introverted and less able to love than those who do not consume porn. And of course, this would then make the commands of Jesus to love God with your whole heart, and to love your neighbor as yourself, very hard to do, if not impossible. And this is precisely what the devil wants. Unless they repent, women and men who pose nude for these pictures, as well as women who dress provocatively to tempt men, will have much to answer for when they die. So also, will the unrepentant people who leer at these naked photos lustfully. Click here to see where unrepentant pornography addicts wind up (what hell is like).

The Big Lie

There is a big lie going around concerning pornography that it is somehow a healthy outlet for people to release their sexual urges. In reality, pornography is pretty poison for the soul. Giving in to pornography in order to overcome sexual urges in other forms is self-defeating, as one can never get enough of it. No one would eat a delicious candy bar if it had nuclear waste inside of it. Pornography is just like that – eye candy that is pleasurable to look at, but chock full of deadly soul radiation inside. Every glance at pornography is like holding a rattlesnake in your hand and having it bite you spiritually. Remember, it is the devil, who wants you to live in a fantasy world of nude people. That way, you will be unable to cope with reality. After a while, you no longer own the pornography you are looking at – It owns you! Why? Because in order to get the same “high,” one has to look at harder and harder porn, which is a true death spiral.

Bible Quotations

Sirach 7:8: Do not commit a sin twice; even for one you will not go unpunished.

Leviticus 18:17: You shall not uncover the nakedness of a woman and of her daughter, and you shall not take her son’s daughter or her daughter’s daughter to uncover her nakedness; they are your near kinswomen; it is wickedness.

Genesis 38: 9-10: But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his; so when he went in to his brother’s wife he spilled the semen on the ground, lest he should give offspring to his brother. And what he did was displeasing in the sight of the LORD, and he slew him also.

Proverbs 14:12: There is a way which seems right to a man, but its end is the way to death.

Isaiah 45:19: I did not speak in secret, in a land of darkness; I did not say to the offspring of Jacob, `Seek me in chaos.’ I the LORD speak the truth, I declare what is right.

Matthew 5:28: But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

Luke 12:34: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.

Ephesians 5:5-6: Be sure of this, that no fornicator or impure man, or one who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for it is because of these things that the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.

Galatians 5:19-21: Now the works of the flesh are plain: fornication, impurity, licentiousness, idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, anger, selfishness, dissension, party spirit, envy, drunkenness, carousing, and the like. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.

1 Corinthians 6:18-20: Shun immorality. Every other sin which a man commits is outside the body; but the immoral man sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, which you have from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.

1 Corinthians 12:22-24: On the contrary, the parts of the body which seem to be weaker are indispensable, and those parts of the body which we think less honorable we invest with the greater honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so adjusted the body, giving the greater honor to the inferior part.

Take the First Step in Overcoming the Addiction

Of course, the first step in overcoming porn addiction is to recognize that it is sinful and straight from Satan. If you don’t do that first, then you have little chance of overcoming this demonic activity. Once you do that, the next step is to get rid of every piece of porn that you own, thereby removing  yourself from immediate temptation. This may mean getting an internet service that automatically blocks sinful websites. After that, it is a given that you must go to confession, and sincerely confess this mortal sin from your heart. Along with this confession, you must also have a firm purpose of amendment that you will never look at porn again. Some people find it useful to replace the pleasure your brain feels when tempted with pornography with pain. How? Easy. Take a big fat rubber band, put it on your wrist, and every time you get an impure urge, snap it hard on your wrist. This may seem drastic, but St. Francis used to throw himself into a thorn bush when he got tempted! By doing this, eventually your brain can be reprogrammed not to associate porn with pleasure anymore, and it will make it easier to stop instead of continually giving in to sinful urges.

After that, one of the most powerful ways to overcome porn is through the Holy Rosary. Telling Mary, who is the total opposite (humble, loving, obedient to her Son) of the prideful devil, that you love her (just like Jesus did while he was on earth) while meditating on the life of Mary and Jesus in the Gospels, is a shortcut to holiness. This expression of love will remove the addiction to porn over time. Addiction is as much a spiritual disease as it is a physical one, and the Holy Rosary is the spiritual medicine that will stop this hellish addiction. Don’t forget that you can also say the Divine Mercy chaplet on your rosary. Jesus loves it when you ask Him for Divine Mercy. According to St. Faustina, the bigger sinner you are, the more of a right you have to His infinite Divine Mercy. Just ask!

Quotes from the Saints

“No one can live continually in sin and continue to say the Rosary. Either he will give up the sin or he will give up the Rosary.” – Bishop Patrick Boyle

“If you say the Rosary faithfully until death, I assure you that in spite of the gravity of your sins, you shall receive a never-fading crown of glory. Even if you are on the brink of damnation, even if you have one foot in Hell, even if you have sold your soul to the devil as sorcerers do who practice black magic, and even if you are a heretic as obstinate as a devil, sooner or later you will be converted and will amend your life and save your soul, if and mark well what I say — if you say the Holy Rosary devoutly every day until death for the purpose of knowing the truth and obtaining contrition and pardon of your sins.” – St. Louis de Montfort

“The Rosary shall be a powerful armor against hell, it will destroy vice, decrease sin, and defeat heresies.” – The Blessed Virgin Mary to Blessed Alan de la Roche

“The greatest method of praying is to pray the Rosary.” – St. Francis de Sales

Additional Ways to Overcome the Desire for Porn

Going to daily Mass as much as possible is also recommended. Since it is forbidden to take Holy Communion while you are in the state of mortal sin (1 Corinthians 11:27), the daily struggle not to look at porn will be overcome by the necessity to stay in the state of grace to receive the Eucharist. And remember, when you receive Holy Communion, you are just like the Blessed Virgin Mary, because you also have Christ inside of you, as she did for nine months after the Incarnation. Immediately after Communion, you and Jesus are one flesh, and that is the best and holiest time for you to tell Him you are sorry, and to ask him for help in overcoming this mortal sin.

Spending quiet time in front of the Blessed Sacrament in Adoration is also a great way to overcome porn. Sitting still and staring at the Host in the monstrance is the devil’s worst nightmare. Why? Because Christ’s flesh in the Eucharist will silently speak to you and overcome your desire for the flesh of naked photos. Not only will you overcome porn, but your entire life will be changed for the better. There is no way to explain any of this logically, it just happens.

“Do you realize that Jesus is there in the tabernacle expressly for you and for you alone? He burns with the desire to come into your heart…don’t listen to the demon, laugh at him, and go without fear to receive the Jesus of peace and love.” – St. Therese of Lisieux

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About the Author:

Retired engineer from Texas, because the cowboy thing on the ranch growing up didn’t work out. Actually rode the Vomit Comet at NASA in Houston once, being totally weightless for 20 minutes!

Married with two kids and Vinnie the Wonder Dog. I love the Church and what it stands for. Without the sacraments, I am nothing.

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