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Marriage: “Same Love?”

November 21, AD2013 51 Comments


I hate the fact that I have to change the radio stations that keep playing the song “Same Love” by Macklemore. What bothers me most is that these seemingly natural lines are sung along to by people bopping their heads in their cars… as if they were universal and obvious truths:

“The right wing conservatives think it\’s a decision

And you can be cured with some treatment and religion

[…] And God loves all his children, is somehow forgotten

But we paraphrase a book written thirty-five-hundred years ago”

“Gay is synonymous with the lesser

It\’s the same hate that\’s caused wars from religion

[…] It\’s human rights for everybody, there is no difference!”

“Till the day that my uncles can be united by law

[…] And a certificate on paper isn\’t gonna solve it all

But it\’s a damn good place to start

[…]Underneath it\’s all the same love

About time that we raised up… sex”

“(I\’m not crying on Sundays)

Love is patient, Love is kind”

You can see the lyrics here.

First of all, Mr. Macklemore, I agree: God loves all his children. Human rights for everyone. Love is patient and love is kind (1 Cor 13).

However, I don’t agree that “God loves all his children is somehow forgotten.” Of course we are very, very sinful and incredibly cruel to our brothers and sisters. We don’t love everyone equally, but it is generally known that God does. Go to mass on Sunday and the readings and hopefully the homily will convey that message. In God’s eyes, no one is the “lesser”, neither gay nor straight. If anything, God lifts up the lesser and favors the humble and the poor. Whether homosexuality is chosen or something you are born with, it is true that God loves all his children and so should we. They are two separate subjects.

There is a huge difference between accepting someone unconditionally and agreeing with all of his or her actions.

It is this fundamental difference that this song and society at large today do not seem to understand. God loves and we are called to love all people, those homosexual or not, in all our life situations and sin. However, our actions are not all relative. “Each person should do what is good for him or her” is an easy solution but incorrect. The Church is our mother and, like most mothers, tells us and does for us what is good for us, not what we want. The world offers “Band-Aid” cures for homosexuality and the Church offers the hard truth, but the truth that can truly satisfy homosexuals’ hearts. And that isn’t by paraphrasing a book, that’s by 2000 years of being guided by the Holy Spirit to interpret the Bible and what Jesus handed down through his Apostles.

Marriage is not a human right.

In America, human rights are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Human rights are possibly to have food, safety and not be tortured, basic principles of that sort. Marriage is not a human right; if it were, then babies should be entitled to it. Marriage is a sacred covenant between a man and a woman, in which they form a family and a one-flesh union. Marriage is the building block and nucleus of society. You cannot marry whoever you want as a “right”. You cannot marry a wall.

It is time that we raised up sex.

Yet sex is an extreme bonding experience between a man and woman who should love each other and be giving themselves–and their bodies–entirely to one another. It’s an act that naturally results in babies, at least some of the time. So what should we raising up? Animalistic sex, in which we use each other’s bodies for our own pleasure and throw them out like trash when we don’t feel like it anymore? Let’s raise up love, in which we give ourselves entirely to one another. Love in which we respect others and their sacred bodies. And let’s raise up married sex as the ultimate expression of that.

So cry on Sundays if you are doing something against God’s will, which will never make you happy but only leave you emptier. True contrition often includes tears. Turn to God (= conversion), no matter what your lifestyle is like, every day and at least every Sunday so that you can be filled with true patience and true love. It’s true, we are all the same underneath, and only God can bring us true peace and satisfy our hungry hearts. Finally, write songs or support those that do and create the culture that we live in. Let’s create a culture of true love (not same love) and music that proclaims the truth. I don’t want to have to change my radio station every other song.




Thank you to Jason Hall for clarifying civil vs. human rights for me:

Marriage to anyone or anything other than a person of the opposite sex is not a possibility to which we simply don’t have a right. No, it is an objective impossibility. At the same time, there IS a clearly defined fundamental human right to marry, recognized in British common law (and therefore in American law), as well as virtually every other Western legal system shaped by the Christian tradition. That’s because Church teaching has always recognized marriage as a basic right of each human person who has the capacity to enter into it.

A civil right is a right arising from and/or recognized by the civil law. A human right is something to which a person is entitled by being a person. When the civil law does not recognize human rights, that creates injustice, oppression, etc. The Church sees sacramental marriage among Catholics in a slightly more refined way than it sees marriage as a societal institution. Canon law governs sacramental marriages. But non-Catholics, and even those who aren’t baptized, have the right to marry and start a family, thought it isn’t a vocation as the Church understands vocations for the baptized.

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About the Author:

Julie Machado is a 30-year-old Portuguese-American who grew up in California, but moved to Portugal to study theology. She now lives there, along with the rest of her family, her husband and her children. She believes the greatest things in life are small and hidden and that the extraordinary is in the ordinary. She blogs at Marta, Julie e Maria.

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