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Deacon Jim Dougherty is a married permanent deacon for the Society of Our Lady of the Most Holy Trinity (SOLT) serving in the Diocese of Honolulu. Dougherty has a doctorate in Interdisciplinary Studies.
For 27 years, he served as executive director of the DeLaSalle Education Center in Kansas City, Missouri, a national model of excellence in education for central-city high school students.
Dougherty has recently published a spiritual memoir about his son’s death entitled: A Place for Us to Meet. The book is available at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1549858076/
He and Karol have been married 43 years and have four children and six grandchildren.

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Lava and the Sacred Heart of Jesus

June 14, AD2018 0 Comments
Lava and the Sacred Heart of Jesus

The haunting glow of fiery lava lights up the night sky near our house. The ever-moving lava has been visible like this for just six weeks, although it seems like six years. It’s like the surging, divine love of the Sacred Heart of Jesus, the furnace of charity, that burns away our imperfections and sins […]

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The Father’s Love in the Trinity and in the Family

May 8, AD2018 0 Comments
The Father’s Love in the Trinity and in the Family

A Superficial View of Dad and Me I recently talked by phone with my 91-year-old Dad. He is in a nursing home, thousands of miles away from where I live. I had spent six months last year caring for him and Mom in their house until my own wife became ill and I returned to […]

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My Prayer for Divine Mercy

April 6, AD2018 7 Comments
My Prayer for Divine Mercy

We must all pray for Divine Mercy. God’s mercy is infinite, as St. Faustina tells us. God hungers for us to turn to Him in our times of trial so that we can find relief in His mercy. When I reveal to others that my depression and anxiety have worsened over the last several months, […]

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Depression in Lent, an Unsought Penance

March 8, AD2018 1 Comment
Depression in Lent, an Unsought Penance

  My Lent so far has consisted of an unrelenting depression that has been getting worse for months. My mounting anxieties and a sense of hopelessness have contributed to difficulty in Lenten prayer. I have tried different forms of prayer and nothing seems to rouse me from my sadness. The only answer I have found […]

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A Hopelessly Inbound Ballistic Missile

January 16, AD2018 0 Comments
A Hopelessly Inbound Ballistic Missile

BALLISTIC MISSILE THREAT INBOUND TO HAWAII.  SEEK IMMEDIATE SHELTER. THIS IS NOT A DRILL. It was Saturday morning, January 13, 2018, at 8:07 A.M. in Hawaii Standard Time (HST) when I received that text message. Hopeless Thoughts There are no emergency shelters for a nuclear bomb on the Big Island of Hawaii. Besides, I reasoned, […]

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Learning from Our Lord Through Anxiety

January 8, AD2018 4 Comments
Learning from Our Lord Through Anxiety

I am learning to keep my anxiety and irritation about others to myself. That does not mean that I have stopped my negative thoughts about others. But, hopefully, that is in the near-future. I usually get anxious or irritated primarily when I experience feelings of inferiority. Someone pulls in front of me in traffic and […]

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A Sabbatical for Suffering with the Immaculate Conception

December 8, AD2017 1 Comment
A Sabbatical for Suffering with the Immaculate Conception

A year ago when I was 65 and working in Hawaii, I traveled 4,860 miles to Delaware to visit my Dad who had just been hospitalized in a psychiatric hospital. Dad was 90 and was suffering, we later found, from dementia. While I was home, I realized that the house was no longer spick and […]

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Fifteen Years of Yearning for Hope

November 11, AD2017 2 Comments
Fifteen Years of Yearning for Hope

November 11, 2017 marks the fifteenth (15th) anniversary of the shooting death of my son, Aaron Dougherty. More essentially, this date also marks the 15th anniversary of my yearning for hope for Aaron in the Resurrection of the Paschal Mystery. Aaron had been severely depressed for most of his 26-year-old life. He died in a […]

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Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

October 9, AD2017 5 Comments
Some Things Are Better Left Unsaid

I like the adage: “Some things are better left unsaid”. But I have a hard time following it, especially when I am in one of my darker moods and in an intense “discussion” with my wife. For instance, I’ll say something that aggravates her and she will bring up divorce. “I don’t know why we […]

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The Petty Fight or Cheerful Parry

September 8, AD2017 0 Comments
The Petty Fight or Cheerful Parry

The Petty Fight The petty fight started over the placement of my rather-large picture of Our Lady of Guadalupe near the top of our living room wall. My wife moved my picture back to the side-wall of the living room, where it previously had hung for 7 years. When I discovered this, I should have started […]

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Turning Points

August 8, AD2017 0 Comments
Turning Points

The first turning point came when our car initially broke down in Hawaii. I was 6,000 miles away in Delaware, caring for my 90 year-old-parents. Well, really, just my Dad. Mom had a few falls but still made mashed potatoes from scratch and watched over Dad to make sure he ate. She has done this […]

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Sending Books to the Future

July 7, AD2017 18 Comments
Sending Books to the Future

Twenty-five years ago, I started unknowingly sending to my parents, from one thousand miles away, the actual books I would use for my future spiritual renewal. The New Evangelization At that earlier time, my intention was simply to share with Mom and Dad the beauty and majesty of the New Evangelization fermenting within the Catholic […]

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The Joy of Pentecost(s)

June 6, AD2017 3 Comments
The Joy of Pentecost(s)

My first novena to the Holy Spirit was in 1974. At that time, I was purely motivated to pray this novena by an infatuation I had for a young lady. She broke off our relationship midway through my novena, but I was still hopeful and persevered to the end. She prayed in tongues, and I […]

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Living in the Paschal Mystery

May 7, AD2017 2 Comments
Living in the Paschal Mystery

Paschal Dad is still a bull of a man at 90 years of age. Manual labor and a strong work ethic have molded him into someone who could physically live another ten years. But he has a broken heart from years of disappointment, depression, and now, to cap it all off, dementia. He has regrets […]

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The Theology of the Body: Part II

April 10, AD2017 0 Comments
The Theology of the Body: Part II

theology of the body I have been waiting impatiently for the “theological timebomb set to go off.” This was George Weigel’s assessment of The Theology of the Body by Pope St. John Paul II as described in Witness to Hope: The Biography of Pope John Paul II (p. 343). Little did I realize that the […]

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The Theology of the Body: Part I

April 9, AD2017 0 Comments
The Theology of the Body: Part I

theology of the body 1979 was an exciting year. My wife was pregnant most of that year with our third child. This was not an entirely pleasant experience for her, although it was greatly ameliorated by her hopeful anticipation of a girl. Thankfully, our first daughter after two boys was born in late August of […]

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Brother Ass: On the Holiness of Our Body

March 3, AD2017 7 Comments
Brother Ass: On the Holiness of Our Body

I was helping my 90-year old Dad shower the other day. We have developed a little ritual using St. Francis of Assisi’s affectionate name for his body, “Brother Ass.” Dad sits on his tub-stool while the shower is running, and takes care of his basic cleaning. While he is still sitting, I scrub his back. […]

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Real Humility

February 6, AD2017 2 Comments
Real Humility

I asked for it. I really did. I knew that I would never find peace until I got down on my knees and begged for humility. Real humility. I was successful in what I thought were important ways. I was a daily communicant. At the time, I had been married to my wife, Karol, for […]

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Back to (Extra)Ordinary Time: Facing Depression

January 20, AD2017 1 Comment
Back to (Extra)Ordinary Time: Facing Depression

I left Hawaii’s extraordinary climate just before the New Year to be with my 90-year-old parents on the wintry east coast near Philadelphia. I arrived the day after my father was admitted to what my mother refers to as “the mental hospital.” Committed It’s my father’s first time in such a facility. He was committed […]

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