My first grandchild was born a week ago and God has given me tons of lessons since. My head is swirling from them all. She has changed our whole world and she is tiny.
I always fought the idea that the wife and mother had to do so much more work than the husband. I saw all these women who worked, took care of their kids, took them to sports activities or scouts and all the other stuff that kids do and keep their house clean. To me it seemed as if the men got the easy part of the marriage. In my life I worked at Hooters and bartended in a strip club and there were the husbands, sitting with waitresses or strippers while their wives were running the kids and the house. In my mind that was what a “traditional” marriage was and it looked terrible.
My view is very different from where I sit now. For one thing I sit next to Christ who is constantly showing me things. It’s like the scene from Lion King where Mufasa is showing Simba the pride lands. That is what Jesus does to me during my prayer time. We reflect on the things that happened and He shows me the lesson.
What I’ve come to see is that the woman is the glue that keeps that all together. We are the ones who have the hearts to hear the voice of God so clearly, not that men don’t, but it is different than how women hear Him. We are made to multi-task and to deal with problems. That is why we fit into roles where we hold things together. Nurses will testify to that! Now, I’m not saying that men can’t do all of these things, but they are not created by God to specifically fill this role in their nature and in the family. And I really think is that part of the Evil One’s plan to destroy families — to get us all to think that it is a bad thing to say that women are made to fill this role. It isn’t bad though, God’s plan is not bad.
God is pretty smart; He made everything for a specific reason, so that we could live lives that glorify Him. That is the point of all of this. Everyone has a place in this world to do just that. Everyone has gifts and vices; gifts to do the work and vices to conquer with His Grace to become a saint. Everything that happens is allowed by God. He doesn’t cause it, we cause the suffering by our own sins, but He does allow it by allowing us to have free will. So that means that He built marriage as the foundation of the family. Through marriage comes children who are taught by their parents about God and about how to become a saint. But before all of that are the roles of husbands and wives.
I am not sure when it became something horrible to say that a woman is made to keep her house, raise her children and love her husband. But anytime I hear that said it seems like there are two groups of women’s response to it: 1) Women are oppressed, or 2) Women should be treated like queens and given a pass to treat their husbands like crap.
Neither is right. A woman is the heart of the home and that is a gift. God gave us the gift of our family and our homes. It is something we should wear with honor, not something we use to shame each other. Our husbands who work and provide for us are gifts. Our children and grandchildren are gifts, and our faith is the greatest gift of all. Taking care of a family is the greatest role we will ever have. If we choose to have a career outside of that then that is icing on the cake, but it’s not the cake.
This world is so upside down when women who purposely medicate themselves to be infertile in order to be career women are praised while women who embrace their fertility and serve in their home are treated like lower class moronic idiots. Power does not come from a career. Power comes from having a new life grow in your womb. That is where a woman’s pride should be. And it used to be. A man’s pride was based on his big family and his beautiful wife who gave him all his kids. That is how God’s plan for the family goes. We humans twist it all different kinds of ways, but I do have hope that we are starting to see the light.
I began to see the light the minute the Labor and Delivery nurse said, “Wow, you have a very unique family. Ya’ll are a great team.” Exactly, family is like a team. Nobody argues that the coach of a team is oppressed.
Women, we have to take back our place in this world. The place Sparky wants us is the place where we don’t bear our children, we don’t teach them to love God, and we don’t love our husbands like Jesus does. Because when we are in that place he has successfully neutralized our God-given powers.
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